No couple has the relationship of their dreams without committing to the process of creating it. Some people imagine it's all about a lucky initial choice, but that is the rare exception. Even partners who are very well matched will trigger each other's childhood wounds at times, and they will find out that they don't always want the same thing for dinner or the same thing in bed. Conflicts are part of marriage, but you can learn to make them short roads to a happy outcome. Choosing to see an expert in relationships is something that will pay off for the future of your family and yourselves.
Similarly, no couple has the intimate life of their dreams without learning the tools of mutual understanding, and courageous communication. Make a choice to seek help learning these tools. You will never regret it!